>CSI: Adoption edition

>Maybe I should title it “ASI” : Adoption scene investigation.
Because ok, “crime scene”….no. But, “investigation”…yes.

Got your attention tho, huh? Good.
Because I need to call out for input; trying to figure something out.

Name changes.
Marta just told me that she had “baby name!”
NOT a nickname, a wholly different name.  
Now, I think it was so cute (and so did her mom)! Not sharing it online tho, not yet, maybe not at all (just because I haven’t asked permission, cut also because she says she didn’t like it and “13.  Marta, no baby, Marta”).

However, I want to find out what this is/was about:
1. a custom?
2. a religous event, similar to our confirmation in the Catholic church?  She is/was Orthodox, but they confirm at the same time as baptism, in infancy.
3. a legal thing, since they don’t track birth certificates?
4. something having to do with school?

Ideas? Knowledge?
Any of  you Ethiopians out there who have stopped by the blog (yes, I know, a reach, just trying to brainstorm…) have info on this?
Any of you parents of older Ethiopian kids have any info, or can ask?

Marta’s name change involved her and her father consulting with the “Abbat”, or priest, and writing it down in a book in their church for the record.  Thus, my conclusion that it might be sacramental.  However, seems upon my quick research…. maybe not.
It might just be an individual way of changing a  name as she said her dad wanted to do so. 
I don’t know.  But, our info is so limited that I am hoping to find out more.  Please comment or email me if  you have further knowledge or possible links.  Thanks all!

7 thoughts on “>CSI: Adoption edition

  1. >Interesting!I work with East African refugees, and have some slight knowledge of this. Often, the refugees I work with have a "home name" and a school/formal name. They can be very similar (Mako = Makay, etc.), or sometimes, quite different. Almost every East African refugee I've worked with over the past three years has had both names. I don't know if that is the case for your daughter, but it may be one small insight.

  2. >Thanks Whitney…I think it might be something similar to that. She says it was really her dad thinking her baby/or home/ name was too babyish…so they changed it. But quite a lot might be getting lost in translation. I appreciate your input!! m

  3. >I too have always heard of baby names simply being family names, names only the family used. Then once the child went to school thier formal name was used. In our case our youngest ET daughter (home 18 months now) didn't know her formal name at all until she was relinquished to the orphanage (she was 2or 3 years old) she had been called Mita (which means little sister) all of her life and then all of a sudden everyone is calling her Tewabech… I'm sure she thought they were all nuts. We figured it out because when we met her it seemed as if she didn't respond at all to her name and readily learned the name we had chosen for her. Once home I asked around for typical baby names… and then tried them out – once she heard Mita her whole face lit up and we knew. Our 2 newest kids ages somewhere between 7 and 10 don't seem to have had baby names, or thier english isn't good enough yet to tell us…or they just don't want to tell us… but our newest daughter doesn't have a thought she doesn't share so i think she probably didn't have one. Any way – long story to say simply that I think they are family names that the parents and siblings use – and they are baptised with thier formal name, and enrolled in school etc.

  4. >Thanks Bonnie! It seems that this might be what this is. But when I ask her as best I can if it is a nickname or home name she us adamant "no". She says it was an 11 yr old change. Written in church book. Not for school as she had been on school w the first baby name. I don't know. Tho she insists she is only Marta. The baby name is too too babyish. Maybe w time I'll find out more. But I really appreciate hearing your take on it. Very helpful, thank you!

  5. >Several times one of my twins has told me that they were called Nina and Nonnie. I wonder if this is what she is talking about? Their real names are Selam and Fikir, nowhere close to Nina or Nonnie!

  6. >Paula, very interesting. Part of me really thinks it was a "baby name' sort of thing….and maybe ONLY her birthmom gets to use it. She, right now, does NOT want it to be used, says w/ great scorn, NO! Baby!….but I guess time will tell…maybe . Interesting stuff.


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